If youve read my blog, or any of my writings, youd probably not accuse me of being a wallflower. Im a bit forward and you could even say Im a little crass. However, please dont assume I dont understand the plight of your average nerd.
I definitely have my share of hang ups and insecurities. See, Im a shaker, the tragic plight of those of us who play chicken with our nerves. If Im in an unfamiliar situation, youll notice that often my hands are at my sides, in my pockets, or folded in my lap. My trembling digits are the bane of my existence, they are the constant give away that maybe Im not as comfortable and affable as I seem.
The worst is when someone says something, Look at your hands, youre shaking like a leaf. Are you okay? I usually make something up, or say I havent eaten, or that my blood sugar is low. The truth is, Im hella nervous, because new places and new faces scare me like no ones business. Im just a good bluffer (or its possible everyone is just playing along).
I suppose being more comfortable around machines than people is part of our geek charm (anti-charm?). I guess thats why World of Warcraft can be so popular, because when youre a 12th level mage you're pretty intimidating; however, when youre a 112 lb kid from Des Moines who built two compilers and his own JS library, the world is a scary place.
Does this sound like your usual lament? Never fear! Girl Developer is here to save you! I, over the past few years, have become quite the butterfly. Im even to the point where Im planning meet-ups of my own. Ive learned many lessons on my way, If youre doing some research (like a responsible dork would) before getting involved yourself this is the best way to start.
I recommend starting with user groups. There are bunches all over the US. That is where I first started, the Microsoft local user group in Islin , NJ was my first stop.
I had no idea what to expect, so I'll fill you in. There is usually a speaker and a technology or methodology to be covered. The first one I went to was the release Silverlight v. 2.0. I dont remember who the speaker was. There were about 20 people there. I've learned that this really varies, I have gone to groups with up to 200, and as few as 10.
What happens is the speaker discusses what they want to cover and then asks the crowd for questions. To my surprise, when you do get the courage to ask questions (you dont have to, but if there is something you are not sure about, or are curious about you should) people dont start yelling or tell you that youre dumb, or march out of the room fuming at your complete lack of common sense.
Really, I'm a witness, even if you DO ask a dumb question. One time I wasnt paying attention (I was text messaging, I dont recommend doing this during someone elses talk, its insanely rude). So I missed the part when the speaker was discussing how you could communicate with the web service of the Microsoft GPS web app. Anyway, I ended up asking this, and he explained that he DID already go over this. (I think he saw me texting) But he did let me know where I could get the information. He wasnt impatient with me, and no one rolled his or her eyes.
After the meeting people usually mill around and talk a bit. If youre not comfortable doing this at first dont worry! After people start to notice your face around a few times they will approach you.
Dont get discouraged! Sometimes they talk about technology; sometimes they talk about the weather. Its always good to meet people that way, bring some business cards, this way you can get contact information and keep those lines of communication open.
In order to find out about user groups in your area, I would suggest reaching out to your local Developer Evangelist. Im a developer who focuses on mostly Microsoft technologies, so I have a contact for the New York area whose name is Peter Laudati. I suggest starting there, and if not go online and search for user groups and some towns around you.
Code camps are probably my favorite things to do in the community. They are a daylong, and you have anywhere from a few to a dozen tracks to choose from.
There are a ton of different speakers, many different talks from beginner to advanced, and as much technology as you can think of. The speakers are pre-determined, and they are often people you really want to see.